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Blame Game

A person’s own folly leads to their ruin, yet their heart rages against the Lord. Proverbs 19:3 NIV

As humans, we have just a couple of character flaws–just kidding, we have several. But one in particular is the “blame game” we play. We sometimes make bad choices; we say or do the wrong thing and later, confronted with the consequences, try to find an excuse for our behavior. We cast about for somewhere to place the blame, no matter how illogical it might be. God is the second most likely explanation when we can’t find an earthly scapegoat. “I can’t believe God gave me lung cancer. It couldn’t possibly be because I’ve smoked two-packs of nonfiltered cigarettes every day for 30 years.” The example might be a bit absurd, but you get the idea.

Knowing that there is a predisposition towards this behavior, what can we do? What can we learn?

First, understand the root of the problem, sin. It was our folly that led to the situation we are in, and we need to own it. Like with all sin, we must repent. We ask God and those whom we may be blaming for forgiveness. 

Secondly, accept God’s forgiveness. When we earnestly seek His pardon, we have assurance that it is given. There is no need to continue to beat ourselves up; accept His forgiveness with thankful hearts and move forward.


Thirdly, learn from it. We know what we did was sinful; we’ve felt the guilt and asked for repentance, and God has forgiven us–try not to do it again. When we heal from a wound physically, there’s a scab; the same thing happens spiritually. Don’t pick at our scabs; don’t reopen a healing wound.

Fourthly, understand that while God heals and restores, He doesn’t always remove the consequences. Returning to the example of the smoker who abused their body for 30 years, God may miraculously heal. He may guide the hand of the physicians and clinicians to bring about healing. Or there may be no physical healing. But we are assured of His spiritual healing, and He will be right there with us through our struggle.

Finally, be his witnesses. Whatever our ordeal, we are left with a message of deliverance. We have a personal story of admission, repentance, forgiveness, and healing to share with others. While we may not know the Bible chapter and verse, we have a powerful testimony to tell others what God has done for us.

Heavenly Father, thank you for your compassion, forgiveness, and grace. Forgive us those times we have blamed you and others for our wrongdoings. Help us to be honest and truthful with ourselves, acknowledging our iniquities and asking your pardon. Help us accept your forgiveness and learn from our mistakes. May we accept the consequences of our actions and your will, knowing you can bring good from evil. Father, guide us in our daily lives and help us to make wise decisions. Bless us with your love and grace, and help us be a blessing to others. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.


Pastor Tim

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. James 1:13-15

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