What Am I Saying?

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29 (NIV)

If there’s one thing people in general love, it’s a little gossip. The Telephone Hour from Bye Bye Birdie is a playful song about teens eagerly spreading news about a budding romance—rapid-fire chatter flying through the phone lines. It’s harmless fun in a musical, but in reality, our words can have a much greater impact than we realize.

In Ephesians 4:22-32, Paul gives practical guidance on Christian living—things to avoid and things to embrace. Among them is this clear instruction: Be mindful of what comes out of your mouth. Why? Because our words shape the atmosphere around us.

It’s not just about avoiding crude jokes or gossip—it’s about steering clear of words that tear others down, plant bitterness, or damage relationships. We can wound people deeply with careless speech: criticism disguised as honesty, sarcasm masked as humor, or negativity presented as realism. Words have weight.

Instead, Paul calls us to use our voices to encourage and strengthen others in faith and life. Imagine how different conversations would be if, instead of speculating, complaining, or mocking, we spoke words that lifted others up. What if, before responding, we asked, "Will this benefit the one listening?"

This doesn’t mean ignoring real struggles or refusing difficult conversations, but rather, approaching every word with Christ’s love, wisdom, and grace. Paul’s exhortation in verse 32 deepens this idea: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Kindness, compassion, and forgiveness should shape how we speak, ensuring that our words reflect the grace we have received.

When we focus on the good, we build a culture of kindness and trust—one where all are strengthened by the words we speak rather than burdened by them.

Lord, help me to guard my tongue and use my words to strengthen others. Let my speech be full of grace and encouragement, pointing people toward you. If I’ve spoken in ways that harm, help me to make it right. May I reflect your love in all I say. Amen.

Blessings,

Pastor Tim